For Me and My House, We Choose to be Moms

There is no greater joy in this earthly life than family.

As a young wife and mother, I loved and adored my husband and children; I counted it a privilege and responsibility to be a mother. And it was a blessing beyond all measures.

During the early 1980s, right at the start of the feminist movement, I recall being timid whenever anyone asked me what I “did” for a living. I always coward to hear their response of, “Oh your just a housewife,” – the politically correct term of homemaker hadn’t caught on yet. I would avoid being asked that question at all costs, and found myself making up excuses why I was home raising my three daughters instead of letting some paid daycare worker watch them while I earned a living doing something else. I even received a bit of grief from my extended family; you see they had high hopes for me, because I was a good student and graduated in the top ten of my class.

My three beauties; Rebekah, Sarah and Micah

As I studied the scriptures, I discovered that I had nothing to be ashamed of as this profession – the oldest of all professions – was God ordained. I became proud of being a stay-at-home mom and also a bit defensive of my career of choice. When people would say to me, “Oh you don’t have a job?” I would reply with, “If motherhood is done right, it is the hardest job in the world.” And that is the truth. Dealing with children all day is exhausting and stressful. The constant worry that you are not “doing” it right, or that you might inadvertently make a mistake and scar your child for life kept me from sleeping on more than one night. But I stuck with it and did the very best that I could do.

Now, I don’t mean to demean any woman who chose or had to work to help support her family, but for me and my house, we chose to make sacrifices so I could stay home and raise my three beautiful daughters and to later homeschool them. And the fruition of my labors were three girls that barely gave me any reason to regret my choices. To say they were all perfect angels would be a lie, for all of us are human and sinners by nature; but I was never ashamed of anything they did. They were loving, talented, selfless children and teenagers, and I was always proud of them and their accomplishments.

Today, they are beautiful women whom I am extremely proud; two are now stay-at-home moms with three children of their own (a one has a fourth on the way), and my youngest, who has not yet started a family, is a registered nurse and getting her Master’s Degree in Literature. The young mothers also homeschool their young broods.

Today they are still my Three Beauties; Rebekah, Micah and Sarah

Recently, I ran across that same condescending question about working outside of the home but in reference to my daughters. I felt that same defensive shame creep up as I made excuses as to why my daughter was not working but staying home to raise her own children. Excuses like, It would cost a fortune for daycare for that many children, and she is homeschooling – all of which were true. I later chastised myself. For you see, although all my daughters are extremely intelligent and talented, I raised and taught them that when they grew up, they could be or do anything they desired. The lesson always continued with a “but.” “But, when you choose to become a mother, your most important and rewarding job would be to raise your own children,” I would admonish.

Apparently this lesson stuck, because that is exactly what they are doing. Yes, it requires great sacrifice. Our family has never been able to take a lot of vacations or have the best cars, but we always have had everything we needed. The rewards far outweigh the sacrifices – I have fantastic grandchildren with whom, like their parents, I am very proud. They are happy, well-adjusted and extremely loving. They are being raised in the Light of God’s Word and they are a joy to not only their parents but to all of their grandparents.

The only thing more joyous than being a parent is being a grandparent. Christmas 2012

Wanted to update this post: Christmas 2013

Wanted to update this post: Christmas 2013 with Chloe Willow added to our ranks!

Would they be the same if they were raised in a daycare or with a babysitter? Perhaps, but then the one who would be losing out would be the parent. Not to see the first step or hear the first word is so heartbreaking to so many working moms and my heart goes out to them.

In the end, it is a choice. Not everyone chooses the same – and that’s okay too. But as I said, “For me and my house, this was and is our choice.”

And I refuse to be ashamed of this choice ever again.

Weekly Photo Challange & Prayer Request: Spring

Spring signifies life; and with all this budding of life that is surrounding all of us this time of year, I am sadden by death.

My daddy-n-law, who is one of the most awesome guys I know is loosing his battle with this life. He is 84 and has COPD for a long time. Yesterday, we brought him home to die. He is ready and even a bit excited to leave this mortal world of pain and loneliness (his beloved wife passed 10 years ago), but he grieves for our sadness.

As you look at these few images of spring in Oklahoma, please say a little prayer for AC that his passing will be gentle and surrounded by those who love and adore him. Thank you.

Tulips and Johnny Jump Ups greet spring like an old friend.

Tulips and Johnny Jump Ups greet spring like an old friend.

Pop, even in his suffering, he has a smile and a joke for everyone.

Pop, even in his suffering, he has a smile and a joke for everyone.

Jonquils

Jonquils

tulip just opening

tulip just opening

Seven of pops nine Oklahoma Great Grands. (Ethan and Mac had stayed home while mom took Isabelle - far left to the doctor). From left Isabelle, Aeden, Caera. Riley, Cameron, Owe and Chloe. He also has two California greats, Chris and Dillon.

Seven of pops nine Oklahoma Great Grands. (Ethan and Mac had stayed home while mom took Isabelle – far left to the doctor). From left Isabelle, Aeden, Caera. Riley, Cameron, Owen and Chloe. He also has two California greats, Chris and Dillon.

Close up serenity

Close up serenity

 

Let There Be LIFE

I always get giddy when, after the deadness of winter, life begins to show up around my place. Although I have a notorious brown thumb, blooms and buds seem to somehow survive the winter and me! I think is is appropriate we celebrate the resurrection of Jesus during the spring when new life abounds around us to remind us that HE too died and rose again, for us. Happy Easter

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Intermixed with all the green, the burnt red of this oak leaf add more color and depth to my landscape

Tiny Cyprus buds. This tree in the pine family looses is needles every fall, littering my yard not only with their large bumpy knees, but also an abundance of rust-colored needles!

Tiny Cyprus buds. This tree in the pine family looses is needles every fall, littering my yard not only with their large bumpy knees, but also an abundance of rust-colored needles!

minute testaments to new life!

minute testaments to new life!

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Flowers and warts: The redbud tree – Oklahoma’s State tree – gets many of these “wart-like” growths along branches and they are usually surrounded by more buds.

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This very tiny offshoot resembles the larger version of itself.

I shot this in color and converted to black and white, then took it one step further by bringing back the color of the buds in the next image.

I shot this in color and converted to black and white, then took it one step further by bringing back the color of the buds in the next image.

I love the way - in the absence of limbs - the buds will find a way to bloom! I think they are my favorite part of this tree.

I love the way – in the absence of limbs – the buds will find a way to bloom! I think they are my favorite part of this tree.

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My redbud tree (sadly beginning to die off) gives me many opportunities for spring photos. Silhouetted against a bright and beautiful spring sky brings happiness and hope.

My redbud tree (sadly beginning to die off) gives me many opportunities for spring photos. Silhouetted against a bright and beautiful spring sky brings happiness and hope.

Don't be fooled by this large bloom, it is in fact just over a 1/4 inch across. Creeping phlox are the first to show their bright faces as they carpet my garden path!

Don’t be fooled by this large bloom, it is in fact just over a 1/4 inch across. Creeping phlox are the first to show their bright faces as they carpet my garden path!

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Have a beautiful week!

A Mama’s Hope

Darla Welchel:

From my friend and fellow blogger, Paula Blaxton!

Originally posted on stuff i tell my sister:

John 3:16 For God So Loved the World ~ Found in the Moore tornado debris.

John 3:16 For God So Loved the World ~
Found in the Moore tornado debris.

Good Friday.  I never really understood why it was called good.  I’ve read the account repeatedly.  I could understand Easter being called “Good Sunday”.  But Friday was a horrific day for Jesus.  For those that loved Him.  For His mama.

When I ponder on the heartache I have held for my own children, I cannot begin to  imagine Mary’s.  Illness.  Struggles. Disappointment.  Mistakes.  A mama wants to fix these things for her children, no matter their age.  The hardest place is when you come to the realization that you have no power to change a circumstance.  Were the many prayers sent up for this child all in vain?

And then I reflect upon Mary.  She had no power.  No prayer left.  Her heart exposed.  I cannot help but wonder, when her eyes met His…

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Simplicity

I took this inside the Myriad Botanical Gardens; the lighting was perfect!

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Weekly Photo Challenge: Reflection

Whether its in glass, water, chrome or a mirror, light and images can be captured and reflected back for a view that is just a little bit tweaked! Often distorted, sometimes funny and always beautiful, reflections capture the imagination and the shutter time of many photographers. Here are a few of mine ranging from planned portraits to moments of opportunities, but always some of my favorites.

Enjoy!

Beautiful lights, cold crisp night and a still pond make for a perfect picture.

Beautiful lights, cold crisp night and a still pond make for a perfect picture.

Baby Auzy loved the mirror.

Baby Auzy loved the mirror.

Christmas in Oklahoma City

Christmas in Oklahoma City

This is one I did for a car show piece I was covering. How to capture classic in a new and interesting way? This was my solution.

This is one I did for a car show piece I was covering. How to capture classic cars in a new and interesting way? This was my solution.

Fine art reflection

Fine art reflection

During a photo shoot, I threw the mirror on the ground and just let the babe crawl all over it.

During a photo shoot, I threw the mirror on the ground and just let the babe crawl all over it.

I loved the way the light is reflected off the bubbles.

I loved the way the light is reflected off the bubbles.

Just checking out my reflection!

Just checking out my reflection!

Have a wonderful week!

Thanks, Pharma. You created the “anti-vaccine movement”.

Darla Welchel:

This is a MUST READ! Truth in journalism

Originally posted on Gianelloni Family:

I love that when a nonsense article floats around on facebook, everyone who knows me, sends it to me. This newest article was sent to me about a dozen times today. I’m out of town for work and said “Nope, not refuting it. No time”. But here I am, with a few hours to spare in my hotel room, and what am I doing….refuting the article. Haha!

I’ve been researching the measles vaccine for 8 years now and have written many posts on this subject.

So here we go…..again.

I have to remind myself that my passion and heart is truly to educate and empower other mothers. So if you are a non vaccinating mother and read the silly Daily Beast article titled “Thanks, Anti-Vaxxers. You Just Brought Back Measles in NYC”, and that article made you question your decision, or you were to made to feel like you needed…

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Weekly Photo Challenge: Inside

This past week, I attended an orchid show INSIDE the Crystal Bridge of the Myriad Gardens in Oklahoma City. Seeing how I wasn’t planning on attending, I did not have my camera. Needless to say, I could not walk by these beautiful flowers without snapping something, so out came my iPhone. My 4gs does a great job on closeups, so without further introduction; here is the INSIDES of some orchids!

Did not catch any of the names of these beauties, but this one was very unique!

Did not catch any of the names of these beauties, but this one was very unique!

This delicate lovely is now my computer wallpaper!

This delicate lovely is now my computer wallpaper!

what's not to love

what’s not to love

His delicate little finger beckons me in for a closer look!

His delicate little finger beckons me in for a closer look!

This one is not a close up because I loved the Star Fish look of its petals.

This one is not as close up because I loved the Star Fish look of its petals.

 

It is frigid here again today; so I’m staying INSIDE with a good book!  Have a blessed week!

Selfies by Allen

Darla Welchel:

From my friend Lilly who does such beautiful bird photos!

Originally posted on A p r o n h e a d -- Lilly:

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Weekly Photo Challenge: Selfie Revisited

For Rommel! :-P

Yabba Gabba Grandma! With Caera Bailey and Aeden Lilly!

Yabba Gabba Grandma! With Caera Bailey and Aeden Lilly!

Weekly Photo Challenge: Story in 3s

Three little girls. Three little photos. Three beautiful smiles!

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